Saturday, September 28, 2013

True Love Ain't Fancy

I want all of my readers to go over to my friend Casey's blog, Bookcasey, right now. More specifically, read this post about The Truth About Marriage before reading this little rant post of mine.
Please.
Of course I'll ask nicely because I'm not about ordering around my readers without some good manners.
Ya'll know me better than that.

Now, go. Read the post. Then we'll meet back here in 5 minutes? Okay? Okay.


Alrighty, people. I'm assuming you love the way she writes as much as I do because you can relate to what she is saying and are probably smiling in your seat because you might feel the same way she (and I) do about marriage! I also want to add in that her and her husband are adorable together. I know this because I see them around campus about once a week and notice how cute they are together before I even recognize it is them.


Now I have been struggling with this lately. I know I'm not married yet and have a while to wait because I need to finish this marathon I like to call Nursing School and get a job in the "real world" and get my pug. After this checklist is done, THEN (considering I get asked to be a wife), I can get married.
On that real world bit- I'd like to think I've been in the real world for a while now. I survived high school and graduated 6th or something in my class, I'm in my third year of college and live in my own apartment (with my bubbie, of course) where I do my own laundry, buy my own groceries, pay my own bills and sleep in my own bed. That all seems like the real world to me. 
Now I haven't been struggling with how much I love my man. It is just so hard to get time to spend together. You already know I'm a slave to college right now and am trying to keep working enough to pay said bills. Alec has been working 11 hour days 5 days a week and when he gets home he is absolutely exhausted. Stare at the computer for an hour and then fall asleep exhausted.
It's just hard on both of us.

Casey shared this quote from Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) by Mindy Kaling:

“I don’t want to hear about the endless struggles to keep sex exciting or the work it takes to plan a date night. I want to hear that you guys watch every episode of The Bachelorette together in secret shame, or that one got the other hooked on Breaking Bad and if either watches it without the other, they’re dead meat. I want to see you guys high-five each other like teammates on a recreational softball team you both do for fun. I want to hear about it because I know it’s possible, and because I want it for myself.” -pg186

This reminds me of a special moment that Alec and I had last night that really makes me appreciate our relationship. I don't know why Casey's post reminded me of this so much but it did.
Last night after dinner, Alec and I were both exhausted. Neither of us wanted to do the dishes or clean up the table. We were surrounded by piles of my textbooks, binders, office supplies, sewing stuff, laundry, winter clothes and a very tangled basket of yarn that my cat keeps re-tangling.
So, we just crawled onto the floor by our cat, Meowzers, and looked up at the ceiling. 
I sighed and said "Our whole house is a mess." 
Alec just pulled my head close to his chest and said as we were looking at the ceiling, "Pretend the ceiling is the floor. Look how clean the floor is! We don't have to worry about how messy the ceiling is because the floor is so clean. Don't trip over the ceiling fan."
This seemed so silly, but for a moment we just laid there on the floor looking up like we were looking at the stars and all the chaos around us just began to fade away. It worked. 
This moment also brought me back to one of the first times we were in our apartment, before any furniture or belongings were here. We just laid on the floor, staring up, and picturing all that this place would become for us. Last night we got the chance to do it again and see how far we had come in our new home.

Thank you Casey for making me realize the little moments like this, and watching Grey's Anatomy obsessively together IS true love. Not just going out on fancy dates and what not.

2 comments:

  1. Aw, that's so sweet. Eventually you guys will have a break and get more time together, but I know what you mean about barely seeing each other and being too tired for a proper date. Sometimes I feel bad because the husband and I might have one big "date" for the week and it will consist of eating bagels and watching TV for an hour, but those little moments do mean something. Sometimes we all need that reminder!

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  2. I'm so glad my post helped you in some way! I got married while I was still in college and working, but all that matters is that you have your guy to love and support you. Thank you so much for the kind words!

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